Thank you so much for the well wishes! We’ve wanted this for a long time, so we’re over the moon about it and looking forward to what is sure to be our biggest adventure.
The years we spent trying to get pregnant were some of the toughest of my life, but at the same time, I feel like I finally learned to truly appreciate all the wonderful things (…and people, and pups, and experiences) I do have in my life. It was a strange time of vacillating between feeling like everything was hopeless and then realizing I need to make the most out of this life, because you never know what’s in store. This process really does teach you to not take anything for granted.
In the end, we were one of the lucky couples for whom treatment worked, and I am so grateful for that. Infertility is so awful and so lonely, and my heart goes out to everyone who is affected by it.
Since we assumed that this cycle wasn’t going to work (if you don’t get your hopes up, it hurts a little less when you fail), we ended up planning a vacation smack dab in the middle of the first trimester. This is not something I would necessarily recommend, unless you’re really into creative ways of, uhm, feeding the fish while snorkeling.
(I’ve also fully mastered the stealthy walk n’ puke, which is an essential skill to learn if you want to stay reasonably active through your first trimester.)
Still, I lucked out since the worst of the “morning” sickness didn’t begin until the end of the trip. Plus, if you’re going to be barfing anyway, you might as well do it in paradise, also known as St. John, USVI.
I’ll get my act together soon and write a guide to my St. John favorites, but for now I just have to mention the amazing vacation rental where we stayed, Coral Bay Eco Retreat. It’s totally off the grid, using solar power and rain water for your electrical and plumbing needs, and the views are to die for.
Of course, our very favorite thing about St. John is the out-of-this-world snorkeling. JK loves turtles almost as much as I love marmots, so getting to swim with them almost every day is a huge rush.
Side note: scuba diving is off-limits while pregnant, but snorkeling is great for you as long as you make sure you don’t hold your breath – so no free diving, and no holding your breath in terror when you see a shark. ;^)
Our friends happened to be on the island at the same time as us with their beach-loving son, and they were happy to report that it was “the easiest toddler vacation ever”. Methinks there will be another trip to St. John in the future when our little family has grown, too!