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These Days | New Year/New Baby Edition

We’ve been absolutely spoiled by having grandparents around through the holidays, but they left yesterday and now we’re on our own until September or so – eek! It’ll be nice to settle into our real life as a family of four, but we’re definitely feeling the absence of extra hands today since I am sick as a dog, again. I need to get my insomnia under control so I’ll have an immune system up and running before Nora starts daycare in a couple of months and inevitably brings home every virus under the sun.

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Anyway, both girls are miraculously napping at the same time right now – Nora only takes a nap once every fortnight or so, but we promised her a cup of hot cocoa if she slept, and by gawd it’s working #worldsokayestparents – so I’m going to attempt to blog. I expect I’ll finish this post in, oh, five days or so. Either that or it’ll be super hurried, random, and not proofread. But at least it’s something.

Christmas was a little different this year, given the aforementioned insomnia and the fact that I constantly feel as if I’m teetering on the brink of full-blown depression. Nora was totally into it though, so I’m already looking forward to next December when I can fully enjoy her infectious wonderment. Something that added to the magic this year was that we received several millimeters of snow, which is a Pacific Northwest miracle.

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So, self-care: When I go through depressive periods, it usually centers around feelings of guilt about not being good enough, and those particular feelings are plentiful when one adds another baby to the family. Add many months of sleep deprivation to the mix, and it’s no wonder I’m up and down, up and down. But! This time around, I know that the sleepless baby period does in fact end, eventually. (However, my own pretty serious sleepless period has been going on since July, which does not seem like a phase – that terrifies me.) And Lils is six weeks(!) old now, so I assume I’ll be cleared to start running again next week at my checkup, which will add some much-needed endorphins to my body. Had I known we would be able to get pregnant so quickly this time, I would never have timed the birth and postpartum period to coincide with (a) the darkest, coldest, wettest, time of year and (b) cold and flu season…but I’m so, so glad we have Lily, and I know I’ll get through this like I always do.

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I’ve also started cooking healthier meals again, which should make me feel better. And I’m trying, somewhat successfully, to stop mainlining chocolate.

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Another good (excellent, marvelous, wonderful) thing is that Lils is a pretty damn chillaxed baby, at least compared to, ehm, our previous experience. She even does that whole “falling asleep drowsy but awake” thing sometimes, which I seriously thought was just a myth perpetuated by supposed sleep experts and smug parents. Huzzah! I really do wish I could combine the confidence that comes with baby number two with the freedom that comes with only having one kid – that would be a dream. Oh, and she started smiling on New Year’s Eve, which is pretty much the best thing ever. I can’t get enough.

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Nora is taking her big sister duties seriously, as you can see, and is increasingly interested in Lily now that she’s getting more interactive. I’m so glad she seems to have handled this transition so well.

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As for Wellie, he’s hanging in there even though the house is ruled by little women…he’s apparently already looking forward to Lily starting solids. Nora trained him well.

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Ehrmagerd, I managed to finish this just in time for Nora to wake up and demand her cocoa. Duty calls. Please send sleepy vibes my way and watch this space for more fragmented, not-at-all proofread, only-interesting-to-me-and-my-future-self blog posts in the future.

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6 Comments

  • Reply Tracy January 8, 2017 at 5:39 pm

    Nice to hear from you in this space! :) The girls are lovely, and I’m glad things are going well – but you gotta get some sleep, woman! :) I wonder if you could try essential oils? (I’m not pushing them, but a newbie learning about them, and impressed with what I’ve experienced so far.)

  • Reply Marie Worthing January 8, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    Wow. I’m so glad that you had a wonderful time with your parents…a great time of the year. After my first bubba I struggled with borderline depression. Getting out of the house and having specific things to do each day helped me cope. I also took extra magnesium/calcium x3 a day and a mega dose before I went to bed. Even now (10 years later) if I have a few nights of dodgy sleep I will take it as it does seem to make a difference for me. Apparently magnesium is the ‘natural’ anti-depressant. Sending you lots of sleepy thoughts and hoping things pick up for you in that area…makes all the difference to coping with life and kids :).
    Cheers, Marie

  • Reply Bobby January 9, 2017 at 7:39 am

    Couldn’t agree more with this line: “I really do wish I could combine the confidence that comes with baby number two with the freedom that comes with only having one kid – that would be a dream.”
    It’s amazing knowing that any hard times baby #2 throws at you are just temporary! Although I also find myself thinking the opposite – when the little one sleeps well for a couple of nights I start to get suspicious knowing there’s no way it can last! :D

  • Reply CarrieH January 9, 2017 at 9:29 am

    Loved this post. Life is far from perfect, but can still be so, so good. Hope you get better and get some rest.

  • Reply Lisa January 9, 2017 at 12:02 pm

    I’m glad you are talking about this stuff. I don’t think a lot of women share their PPD/PPA, or regular ol’ depression, enough. And it can make you feel kind of alone. I’m glad you are being pro-active about it!

    As for daycare, not to freak you out, but you guys WILL get sick. All the time. At least in the beginning! People told us that too, but until we started daycare in September and experienced it first hand, we didn’t “get it”! It really is hard, but take it easy and try to rest as much as possible!!

  • Reply Laura January 10, 2017 at 6:55 pm

    I’m right there with you on the need to quit mainlining chocolate! It’s just so hard to give up!!

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